So I have a friend who, sometimes, I like to call the male version of me - definitely ambitious, vivacious, intellegient, and has a passion for movies and music that trumps my own (so does yours A-rod). He wrote a blog on Monday to start some discussion and it has truly intrigued me as well. I repeat that blog below and would love to hear your thoughts. Now it’s a lot of reading and requires some thought, but I know you are all up to the task cuz its a very interesting article.

Magazine Matters - Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough
Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough - The Atlantic
By Lori Gottlieb
Lori Gottlieb is a graduate of Stanford Medical School, a New York Times best selling author, a contributor to NPR, who has written for The New York Times, Time, and The Atlantic. Her career is a runaway success, yet at 40, she’s still single. She wrote, what amounts to an open letter to young, smart, career minded woman, in the March issue of Atlantic, begging them to settle for "Mr. Good Enough." It’s a very funny/sad article that made me at once ecstatic to be a man and sad for my female friends for whom this article was written.

Many of those friends, mostly twnetysomethings, have gotten their hands on the article and have been talking about it fervently. I would be interested in hearing their thoughts and I hope they take a moment to respond to this post with their feelings about the article. I did talk to one of my married friends who is in her early 30’s and without even reading the article she agreed 100 percent that women should settle. This is a non-issue for me because I’ll never have to settle. If I don’t find the women of my dreams (a 20 something with a bright future and a palpable sexual energy) in the next 15 years, I’ll still have another 15 years to keep looking and never diminish my ability to start a family. Women on the other hand, only have a short window to procreate.

Is this fair? Yes. Men are born with just enough genetic code to exist, while women are born with the complete catalogue of the human genetic code. Therefore women are the greater sex. They have the power to create life with the help of just a few cells. Men need an entire woman to pass on their genes. Once science figures out how to manufacture sperm in the lab, the arguments for keeping men around will hold less and less weight. Men start wars, die sooner, are stupider, and most of us go bald. The advantages we do have are that we get more attractive as we age and our sperm works well into our 70’s. So I don’t feel bad that you have to have all your children by 37.

Read the article and let’s have a discussion.

Tragedy?

First real blog of "The Ocho" and I have to say that I am sad that I have been missing out on my fellow bloggers words of wisdom as of late.

But to the topic of this post... You know it is really sad that the moment I logged on instant messenger tonight - I said hello to a couple of people and began to dabble at peoples away mesages. Instantly I was inundated with questions of "Did you hear about Heath Ledger?!" Shock and awe this above average actor died of a not yet labeled "overdose." I do not mean to be callous - it is sad when anyone's life is loss but I feel a little bitter that I can barely get my friend's to pay attention to the minutia that is my life but Heath Ledge was in more than one bulletin and away message. It is slightly irritating and annoying that this in a month blip in the entertainment section and in a year, highlight in the 2008 countdown, monopolizes so much of people's time. And let me be cliche and throw in that there are people dying every day in a little place called Iraq and much more bravely than a spoiled "escape" from reality.

And finally, how dumb is this? I can't understand the Lindsay Lohan's and Amy Winehouse's and Heath Ledger's. Have you not learned anything from being in the business? Drugs are not the sh*t. Making your life into a pathetic "lessons learned" case is not the way you are going to get an everlasting tribute. You are not Hendrix or Lennon or Phoenix or Dean. Take a look at the sh*t show that is Britney Spears. Anything she ever did is not blown away by her current lifestyle.

So here's to Heath: that actor that played the joker and that gay cowboy who died of an overdose... doesn't sound very glamourous, huh?

For now I remain,

Irritatedly yours,
Shemeka

Back in the Saddle?

The problem is that you can not get to blogs from my new job. You can't get to practically anything. Stupid firewalls for the students. However - I've decided to get back in the saddle. If not a couple of times, I will at least try to blog once a week. I know that some of you have less than busy lives and blogging might seem second nature like checking your mail or what not. But I have a feeble mind and while I think of awesome important things to say by the time I can get around to blogging about it - I have lost it, which usually iritates the hell out of me. Oh well, one more time as Daft Punk would say.........