Not Special!

A repost for Sexy Thought.... but it needed to be said - AMEN!


anyway, i told him i had my own little opinion about relationships:

black men are becoming increasingly demanding without even offering half of what they should in return.

yes, i said it. cause i feel like i've been witnessing men wanting a woman to do this that and the other and they aren't even great providers or people you can depend on or even giving basic minimums. n-words with no jobs and a rack of kids act like they should be catered to. stingy men think the world should revolve around them. men want to be black women's everything barely giving anything to become that everything.

I also have some news for you black men (i'm speaking to yall cause i don' t really know about other men).

Stop thinking you are special or should be treated special for doing ordinary shit or doing the shit you are supposed to do!

honestly:

if you have a job:

you are NOT special. Most of us have jobs. we get jobs, keep jobs or at least look for jobs. this does not make you anybody, it makes you everybody. getting a job is what you are supposed to do. who else will get one for you?

if you pay your bills:

you are NOT special. Most of us pay our bills. we complain about it, but we know we have no choice but to do it. its a responsibility. it is what happens when you become an adult. paying your bills is what you are are supposed to do! its not optional. do you expect someone else to pay your bills for you?

if you went to college:

you are NOT special. Most of us aspire to go to college, have been to college, have completed college or have gone past college. going to school is what you should want to do not what you should be rewarded for doing!

if you have good credit:

this might make you special. but its still what you are supposed to do!

if you have children and take care of them:

you are NOT special. When you have sex, you do so with the full knowledge that it might lead to conception. The birth of a child obliges you to take care of and nuture that child during their time here on earth. If you provide for that child, it is your responsibility. taking care of your children is something you are obliged to do!

if you treat me right:

you are NOT special. Labelling our relationship, being my better half, being reliable, being faithful, being nice, caring, understanding and loving, that shit is what men are SUPPOSED to do. if you compare yourself to no good n-words and thing that you deserve cookies for that, you need to aim higher. cause treating me right is what you should do!

sorry i got all passionate about this, but i just think people need to know. women need to stop acting like they are being done a favor by men dating them. neither of you are doing each other a favor. you both bring something to the table. and when men don't bring something to the table and women feel like they can't do better. that's even worse.cause you both need to bring something to the table. don't fool yourself or anyone else into thinking that bring the above puts you on a pedastal. these are things you are supposed to at least try to bring to the table. We have to start expecting more of ourselves and more of others.

okay...don't with the preaching.

ANTM

Just in case you don't know the acronym that stands for America's Next Top Model. And I am happy that Teyonna won last night even though I was rooting for Aminat. I am so glad that Allison did not win! Tyra needs to get over this little strange/oddity look obsession cuz weird ain't always pretty. But speaking of ANTM check out the latest - yea I gotta say I am looking FIERCE!

if I won the lottery

so here's what I would do if I won the lottery - what about YOU?

-tithe the money of course to my church and conference
-pay off my parent's home, renovate it, and by them a new home here in VA, one in ATL, and one in San Antonio, TX
-buy my dad the truck he's always wanted and a new car for my mom
-buy my grandmother a new house with a huge kitchen and den and play room
-pay for my sister's grad school, and my brother's undergrad
-still invest a million
-put aside some money to take care of other family incidentals
-give money to the College of William and Mary for a new performing arts center/music building
-travel the world and take my closest friends with me
-buy an aston martin
-stay in the penthouse suite of a hotel
-and then split the rest with my friends! so we could all be rich:-D

The Final Frontier

So here's the question: Why is the jealousy still there? Why when I see a black man with a white woman do I stil get mad and a little upset?

Its not that I wouldn't date a white man and I don't want brothers to be happy but I just don't understand it sometimes. And it seems to be inherent, like something I cannot control.

I personally, contrary to popular belief about me, would rather date a black man. I am more attracted to them and I am into supporting the brothers. However, with the current state of affairs, I am not opposed to dating outside my race.

So really I want some comments on my first question - why am I upset seeing a black man with a white woman AND why does you believe (cuz this assumption comes from my friends) that I would rather date a white guy?

Green Light...

and I'm ready to go! I am up feeling good - Thank you Lord that it is summer time and I don't have class to go to. While that doesn't mean I can just laze about, it does feel good not to have to go to class. I am on a John Legend tip. Ready to go, right now! So on the agenda today is some house cleaning and laundry.

Thoughts for today:
1. Why do I absolutely love the song Don't Make Me Over by Sybil?

2. Most played song on my iTunes - Can You Believe by Robin Thicke

3. I really can't wait to see the movie Wolverine!

4. I have a case of the ex.