White Woman Raising A Black Man

First off, it isn't possible. Ok anything is possible, but with our modern day perception of white women and black men, you know its true. While I hate to make sweeping generalizations - what does raising a black man mean really? Because no matter how you raise the child, if there is one drop, then you will always be "raising a black man."

I guess they mean culturally. Will they be raising their sons to be strong black men culturally? The funny part of this is where are the cultural examples of "GOOD", strong, black men? I mean to raise a black man could be to, pardon my language, raise some little nigga for the streets. Does it mean to make sure they understand culturally the struggle, the plight of the black man? I can't even talk in any kind of order because I have so many thoughts going on here. The "GOOD" examples of black men are called sell outs and uncle toms anyway. Equal to their successful women counterparts they are told they are trying to "act white" by getting a good education, especially if its a college education and its not at a historically black college.

So where does this leave our brothers? Where does it leave the mothers, the ones of other races who worry that they child will have a confused identity? My friend, Sexy Thought, blogs about what is your primary identity? What does a person consider their primary make up? In the case of these women trying to raise a black child, is it that they want their children to recognize themselves as or connect themselves first to their racial identity? That is how important it is. You can't go through life being ambiguous especially with dark skin. You are already to someone who looks at your perhaps black, then male, then Christian, then a college graduate or whatever. Unfortunately, it's harder for it to happen "oh shes a female, Christian, graduate, poet who happens to be black. It is the marker. It is the identity.

These women are having a hard time in their opinion "raising a black man," because they don't identify themselves with this identity. Being black is not one of their primary traits. And that is more important than being a male of female because I would venture to say that for a black woman it is far easier, at least culturally, to raise a black man where his primary identity is that of a black man. But don't give up women of other races. Most importantly, you are trying to raise a good man - and that, in any race, is still damn hard to find.