Not Special!

A repost for Sexy Thought.... but it needed to be said - AMEN!


anyway, i told him i had my own little opinion about relationships:

black men are becoming increasingly demanding without even offering half of what they should in return.

yes, i said it. cause i feel like i've been witnessing men wanting a woman to do this that and the other and they aren't even great providers or people you can depend on or even giving basic minimums. n-words with no jobs and a rack of kids act like they should be catered to. stingy men think the world should revolve around them. men want to be black women's everything barely giving anything to become that everything.

I also have some news for you black men (i'm speaking to yall cause i don' t really know about other men).

Stop thinking you are special or should be treated special for doing ordinary shit or doing the shit you are supposed to do!

honestly:

if you have a job:

you are NOT special. Most of us have jobs. we get jobs, keep jobs or at least look for jobs. this does not make you anybody, it makes you everybody. getting a job is what you are supposed to do. who else will get one for you?

if you pay your bills:

you are NOT special. Most of us pay our bills. we complain about it, but we know we have no choice but to do it. its a responsibility. it is what happens when you become an adult. paying your bills is what you are are supposed to do! its not optional. do you expect someone else to pay your bills for you?

if you went to college:

you are NOT special. Most of us aspire to go to college, have been to college, have completed college or have gone past college. going to school is what you should want to do not what you should be rewarded for doing!

if you have good credit:

this might make you special. but its still what you are supposed to do!

if you have children and take care of them:

you are NOT special. When you have sex, you do so with the full knowledge that it might lead to conception. The birth of a child obliges you to take care of and nuture that child during their time here on earth. If you provide for that child, it is your responsibility. taking care of your children is something you are obliged to do!

if you treat me right:

you are NOT special. Labelling our relationship, being my better half, being reliable, being faithful, being nice, caring, understanding and loving, that shit is what men are SUPPOSED to do. if you compare yourself to no good n-words and thing that you deserve cookies for that, you need to aim higher. cause treating me right is what you should do!

sorry i got all passionate about this, but i just think people need to know. women need to stop acting like they are being done a favor by men dating them. neither of you are doing each other a favor. you both bring something to the table. and when men don't bring something to the table and women feel like they can't do better. that's even worse.cause you both need to bring something to the table. don't fool yourself or anyone else into thinking that bring the above puts you on a pedastal. these are things you are supposed to at least try to bring to the table. We have to start expecting more of ourselves and more of others.

okay...don't with the preaching.